The Skill of Dating

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Dating is a skill. It is a skill that we struggle to gain feedback on, and make a lot of assumptions about. As a result of this, on many occasions we over analyse a date and make things much worse for ourselves. For those people who want to improve their dating, there are many things that you can do.

Mobile Dating

The dating scene is constantly changing and evolving to meet the demands of the modern person. Advances in technology have greatly changed the way in which people approach dating. It is thought that 51% of Australians have tried online dating, and that 1 in 10 Australians has found love online. Furthermore, it is believed that 33% of couples met online. Meeting online and using various forms of technology to help people date is becoming an ever present part of our society.


Texting and online messaging is a great tool to use when dating, especially before a first date. Knowing some basic information about your date, whether it be the music they listen to or their favourite movies, can change the whole dynamic of the date. After just a small conversation via text, many people are much more comfortable on a first date.

However, when texting or messaging, it is very important to reply ASAP. People live with their phones, so it’s often very easy to reply to a text. Taking your time to reply often implies that you are ignoring them, which is never good a good thing. Texting and messaging can help out on a date, but there are still plenty of other things you can do to improve your dating.

Confidence is Key

In order to find that special person in your life, you need to be the best version of yourself. Make an effort to look after your body and keep up to date with what’s fashionable. When dating someone, make sure to take an interest in them, ask plenty of questions and listen to them. But what often is a deal breaker on a date, is confidence.

Being confident in yourself is a great way to attract someone. As a lot of us know, however, confidence isn’t something that just happens. It is something that you need to gain. So if you’re struggling for confidence, a great way to improve it is to simply talk to new people, and get to know them. Doing this will make a huge difference when on a date.

A Date is Not A Commitment

One of the most important things to remember about a date is that it is not a commitment. You are not obliged to keep seeing someone, and you are not vowing your love for them. The best way to improve your dating is to simply go on dates. Don’t be afraid to ask someone out, or say yes to a date, because the more dates you go on, the more likely it is that you will find someone special.

Be Prepared

Make sure to be prepared on a date, but not too prepared. Plan out what restaurant you want to go to, and have a back up if something goes wrong. There is nothing worse than going on a date and everything is planned to a tee, almost that you are reading off a script. You need to go somewhere that you are comfortable in so that if anything doesn’t go to plan, you won’t panic.

Test the Chemistry

There is nothing worse than having to guess if your date is ‘in to you’, so to speak. Being able to read your dates body language is a great way to do this. Therefore, when on a date, very subtly, try to initiate some contact, maybe leaning and sitting closer to them. If they let this happen, things may be going very well. If they react poorly then at least you know they probably aren’t that in to you.

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James Smith

James Smith

James Smith is a fashion blogger and a fashion designer who often blogs about men's grooming, fashion and styling. James also love doing photography, designing and playing football.